How Jesus moves the woman at the well along the path to a saving relationship with God is a great model  of friendship evangelism.

3  He left Judea and departed again to Galilee. 4 But He needed to go through Samaria. 5  So He came to a city of Samaria which is called Sychar, near the plot of ground that Jacob gave to his son Joseph.

A. Evangelism is purposeful and intentional (What’s your plan?)

B. We go to them, outside of our comfort zone  (Who are folks in your oikos who need Christ?)

C. We start with those with most commonality and then branch out (How have you served those in your immediate vicinity?) Acts 1:8

6  Now Jacob's well was there. Jesus therefore, being wearied from His journey, sat thus by the well. It was about the sixth hour.

D. Evangelism takes effort (How can/ do you draw on supernatural power to do God’s will?) Acts 1:8

E. We go where they are and initiate on common interest  (Where and when do you have conversations with folks in your oikos?)

F. Evangelism takes place in natural settings and situations (Are you looking, praying for, and orchestrating opportunities?)

7  A woman of Samaria came to draw water. Jesus said to her, "Give Me a drink." 8  For His disciples had gone away into the city to buy food.

G. Commonality, as well as revealing our need or asking for  a favor  develops a  relationship (are you real and vulnerable?)

H. A personal relationship can be created in a matter of minutes (How well  do you need to know someone to help them?)

9  Then the woman of Samaria said to Him, "How is it that You, being a Jew, ask a drink from me, a Samaritan woman?" For Jews have no dealings with Samaritans.

I. We overcome social conventions/barriers, our prejudices and preferences in the name of obedience, faithfulness and love (What turns you off about unbelievers, and how do you deal with that? How would revealing a need further a relationship?)

J. Asking people for help where they have expertise opens the way for us to help them with our expertise (What’s your expertise?)

10  Jesus answered and said to her, "If you knew the gift of God, and who it is who says to you, `Give Me a drink,' you would have asked Him, and He would have given you living water."

K. We move from ATTENTION, to INTEREST, to NEED, to SOLUTION, to OBJECTIONS (Are you aware of the process?)

L. The gospel has multiple appeals {triple baited hook} (Can you list a dozen needs that a saving relationship with Jesus meets?)

M. We move from FELT need to “REAL” need with a PLAN  (How do you discern felt needs and raise real needs?)

N. We can move from the physical real to the spiritual realm as we understand both (How well have you studied your worlds?)

O.  The gospel is the good news that God is giving us a gift, not us doing something for God (Do you complicate the requirements?)

11  The woman said to Him, "Sir, You have nothing to draw with, and the well is deep. Where then do You get that living water?

12  "Are You greater than our father Jacob, who gave us the well, and drank from it himself, as well as his sons and his livestock?"

P.  We overlook insults since our worth/value come from pleasing Christ, not putting down others (What’s the basis of your worth?)

Q.  We don’t initially get involved in the intricacies of “religion”, keeping the focus on the real issue (Are you sensitive to HS’s timing?)

13  Jesus answered and said to her, "Whoever drinks of this water will thirst again, 14  "but whoever drinks of the water that I shall give him will never thirst. But the water that I shall give him will become in him a fountain of water springing up into everlasting life."

R. We listen well to them to understand  what questions they are asking (Do you monologue more than you  dialogue?)

S. We tailor our response by talking in terms of  their expressed interest, building their desire by communicating FEATURES and BENEFITS (How can you do a better job of building desire?)

15  The woman said to Him, "Sir, give me this water, that I may not thirst, nor come here to draw."

T. We bring people to a point of  wanting a relationship with God (What was the initial appeal of the gospel to you?)

U. People’s motives and understanding are frequently “off” but their desire for God is “right on” (How do you handle that?)

16  Jesus said to her, "Go, call your husband, and come here."

V. We must bring up the barriers that stand between a person and a relationship with God  when they want that relationship

W. Without awareness of their sin, there is no awareness of their need for a Savior (Can you bring up sin without offending them?)

17  The woman answered and said, "I have no husband." Jesus said to her, "You have well said, `I have no husband,' 18  "for you have had five husbands, and the one whom you now have is not your husband; in that you spoke truly."

X. People are usually deceiving and deceived when they walk in darkness (Is light of the truth  a laser or a floodlight?)

Y. We should affirm as much as possible, but not let key lies go unchecked (How do you develop a sensitivity to the HS?)

19  The woman said to Him, "Sir, I perceive that You are a prophet. 20  "Our fathers worshiped on this mountain, and you Jews say that in Jerusalem is the place where one ought to worship."

Z. We should expect attempts by Satan to derail a person’s conversion by using smokescreens, diversions and interruptions (How should you pray to diminish or prevent demonic influence? How should you handle “theological discussions? How prepared are you with evidence/logic to respond to sincere objections?)

21  Jesus said to her, "Woman, believe Me, the hour is coming when you will neither on this mountain, nor in Jerusalem, worship the Father. 22  "You worship what you do not know; we know what we worship, for salvation is of the Jews

AA. We must respond to honest objections, not ignore them, but not let them get in the way of the main issue? (How do you develop skill in bring the conversation back on track? Do you know where the track is, and where it goes?)

23  "But the hour is coming, and now is, when the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and truth; for the Father is seeking such to worship Him.24  "God is Spirit, and those who worship Him must worship in spirit and truth."

BB. The Father seeks people to worship Him, we’re just His agents (How do we keep conscious of the Father’s agenda?)

CC. We must appeal to both their mind and emotions (Do you tend to be more cognitive or emotional in your approach?)

DD. We gently keep the focus on a response to the Truth (How are we likely to be sidetracked, and what’s the prevention?)

25  The woman said to Him, "I know that Messiah is coming" (who is called Christ). "When He comes, He will tell us all things."

26  Jesus said to her, "I who speak to you am He."

EE. We must ultimately reveal Jesus to them as the One who meets the needs we’ve surfaced (How does Jesus meet needs?)

FF. We should affirm where we can; build on and link to their response and interest (How we keep a person’s attention and interest?)

27 And at this point His disciples came, and they marveled that He talked with a woman; yet no one said, "What do You seek?" or, "Why are You talking with her?"

GG. Frequently church goers don’t understand Biblical discipleship nor lifestyle evangelism (Who are you going to please?)

HH. We must be in the world, but not of the world to maintain a pure witness (Who are you going to please, worldlings or  Christ?)

28  The woman then left her waterpot, went her way into the city, and said to the men, 29  "Come, see a Man who told me all things that I ever did. Could this be the Christ?" 30  Then they went out of the city and came to Him.

II. The most effective witness is frequently someone who has just been saved? (Why is that so? What can old saints do?)

JJ. Those who experience genuine conversions usually tell others (Why would someone not tell what happened to them {witness}?)

31  In the meantime His disciples urged Him, saying, "Rabbi, eat." 32  But He said to them, "I have food to eat of which you do not know." 33  Therefore the disciples said to one another, "Has anyone brought Him anything to eat?" 34  Jesus said to them, "My food is to do the will of Him who sent Me, and to finish His work.

KK. True evangelism is sacrificial but rewarding and sustainable obedience (What does your love cost you?)

35  "Do you not say, `There are still four months and then comes the harvest'? Behold, I say to you, lift up your eyes and look at the fields, for they are already white for harvest!

LL. There are usually more opportunities to evangelize than Satan would have us believe (Do you pray of open eyes and sensitivity?)

36  "And he who reaps receives wages, and gathers fruit for eternal life, that both he who sows and he who reaps may rejoice together.37  "For in this the saying is true: `One sows and another reaps.' 38  "I sent you to reap that for which you have not labored; others have labored, and you have entered into their labors."

MM. Evangelism is a process requiring labor, which God expects us to work at (How much swat are you expending for the benefit of others?)

NN.  We need to be aware of where people are in the process of cultivation, sowing, reaping (What skill are you best at? How can you improve?)

39  And many of the Samaritans of that city believed in Him because of the word of the woman who testified, "He told me all that I ever did." 40  So when the Samaritans had come to Him, they urged Him to stay with them; and He stayed there two days.

OO. People sometimes respond to the testimony of others (Can you share how you came to Christ  in three minutes {pre/decision/post}?)

PP. Converts need intensive post-natal care or they get sick and  wither (How well can you reproduce a walk with Christ in others?)

41  And many more believed because of His own word. 42  Then they said to the woman, "Now we believe, not because of what you said, for we ourselves have heard Him and we know that this is indeed the Christ, the Savior of the world."

QQ. Others respond  only after personal investigation of Jesus’ words (Can you host an evangelistic Bible Study? When?)

TOP SEVEN QUESTIONS TO ASK:

1. Do you ever think about spiritual things? What kind  of things do you think about?

2. What and why? WHAT do you think about: (God, Jesus, purpose of Life, why are we here, what happens when we die, source of power for living, various religious belief, problems of  man, basis of great relationships) ; and WHY do you think/believe that {basis of belief}?

3. Have you reached a point in your spiritual pilgrimage where if you were to die tonight, you’re absolutely certain you’d go to heaven?

4. If you were to die and stand before God tonight and He asked you “why should I let you into My heaven?” what would you say?

5. Would you be interested in seeing an illustration that summarizes what the Bible has to say about answering that question?

6. Where are you in this diagram?

7. Is there anything preventing you from accepting God’s free gift of forgiveness and starting to live the abundant life right now?